“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young Continue reading
Not for all children visiting kindergarten evokes positive emotions, often the children can’t come to terms with the permanent early rising in the morning, stress due to conflicts with peers, strict discipline, etc. And these kids more than those who are happy to run in the garden. The rest are capable of tantrums that accompany your trek in kindergarten, they constantly cry or evening, or after sleep, or during the journey. They cry at the sight of educator or in the care of parents, but it’s clear that this crying is always a reason that it is important to identify and correct the child’s behavior to avoid such stress.
What can be causes of crying baby?
One reason for these constant tears may be early each morning when the child is set on a sweet morning sleep. The child actively awake, forced to gather in the garden and he is trying all he means to stay at home. Many kids can even lie on the floor in hysterics, parents not only led them to the garden.
With such an extreme behavior of the baby should explain to him what is taking him to kindergarten. Tell your child that you need to go to work to earn a lot of money, which you will definitely buy him beautiful new clothes and toys. Convincing in this baby, you should stick to our promises, that this explanation has not lost Continue reading
Sometimes all–still without punishment is not enough. It is about those cases, when your child knows what he’s doing is bad and wrong. He knows that this behavior imposed a strict ban. Knows – and checks… “strength”. And suddenly the boundaries of their own sovereignty to be extended? Suddenly can not be considered with parental demands? It is so important to clarify from time to time, who’s the pack leader.
Why you have to punish the child
Than to respond to children’s rudeness, deliberate cruelty, lies, blatant disobedience? Here, the reaction of the parents must be strict and unambiguous. Want–don’t want to have to punish. From all children’s misconduct was exactly the reaction requires approximately 10 %.
Incidentally, demonstrating defiance, the child… waiting for punishment and even needs him. After all, a false sense that you are stronger than adults, is not conducive to the successful development of the personality, only provokes fears. After all, if mom and dad can’t obey – therefore, their word penny is not worth it. From this, the child concludes: “parents – people are weak, lacking authority”. It can’t protect you any–that weakling?
The importance of evaluation for the children’s consciousness was confirmed Continue reading