Relationship between parents and children
Already ancient thinkers spoke about the importance of relationships between children and parents. And modern scientists confirm: Yes, the family — it is, after all, the cell of society; it is in the family are laid for the future of the child’s relationship to the world and, most importantly, to people. From what the parents pay attention to the proper upbringing of his son or daughter, how would their own family, what kind of parents they will become. It is about the relationship of children and parents we decided to talk about today, and about how God’s Word addresses this issue.
A word to the children
“How fortunate we are to have a slim posture,
and it’s no secret to get rich, and my mother is a Christian”
These beautiful lines written by famous Christian poet Andrey Lukashin. In fact, if we reflect on what a good, dear parents? Can’t choose your parents, but almost for every child mother — best man. Kids don’t even come up with the idea that someone else’s mom can be better than him. Even if the kid suffers punishment from parents, they still remain the most expensive and loved, and he does not remember the offense. But, unfortunately, not always. Children grow up and become young men and women with their own opinions, interests and friends. They are already able to consider in their parents flaws and negative traits. They may not obey or rude answer, all his behavior, arguing that they are too grown-up, independent personality. They think they will not be like their parents, although involuntarily imitate them. I would like to appeal to teenagers, young men and women who still live with their parents. Dear, have you ever thought about how good it is to have parents — Christians. Luckily in the house with peace and understanding. How wonderful that you are constantly praying your mother or father. That their prayers will be heard by the King of the Universe. At their request, He protects you from evil, temptation, sin, protects you, heals, loves and regrets. Prayer of parents can lead to repentance, to save from misery, to bring a blessing. Do you appreciate it? The Lord calls the children to be obedient to parents:
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right” (Eph. 6.1).
“Honor thy father and thy mother, as Jehovah had commanded you by the Lord your God, to prolong thy days, and so good for you was in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee” (Deut. 5.16).
Pay you good to your parents for their care and love? Because they spend so much effort for you to be shod, clothed, well fed. Remember how many times they were treated, how much time was spent with you the lessons, how much time they give you wise advice, sympathized with you, comfort and help. And are we able to repay my parents for everything they did for us? Actually we will be able to fully understand and appreciate them only when they themselves become parents. Only then we will understand their experiences, pain, or Vice versa, joy for their child. Therefore, in the book of Proverbs 23.22 written:
“Listen to your father who begot you, and despise not thy mother when she and astreet”. Unfortunately, many children can say, “But my parents are not as good as the Word of God says”. Yes. We are all different. But God warns:
“Anyone who curses his father or his mother, shall be surely put to death” (ex. 21.17).
There are such situations when the children want to leave home from regular “scandals”, accusations, orders. Dear, this is not the way. Is it not better to obey parents and to God, singing the commandment:
“Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord” (CoLOS. 30.20) . If you love the Lord, at the moment, your main task is to be obedient to parents. Why would you at any cost. If you’re going to learn to obey parents, in the future you will be easy to obey Christ. If you do not fear God, imagine what you could do with your children. Put yourself in the place of parents and maybe you will understand them. We wish the children to your hearts reached Christ. Then there will be peace and love in families, then you will be able to understand and respect their parents.
A word to parents
Having children is the greatest happiness. What joy they receive from their presence, gentle hugs, simple answers. As we want to do everything that the child was blessed, healthy and happy. Having children is good, and obedient – a better place. And so you want to baby was grateful not only to you, but, above all, to God. I think everyone with children Christian wants his child to be born from above, was led by the Holy Spirit to work in the Church, bear fruit. Yes. This is the dream of many. But is it enough effort we exert to make it happen? First of all, we must look inward. Good example we serve the children? When the Christian lives to God, then his life he leaves the children an example of service. Then it is not difficult every day to pray with the children and read the Word of God. Then it is easy to pray and for the children themselves. Expensive, and how much time you spend in fasting and prayers for their children? Depends on their obedience. When the child is still small is much easier, but when he’s already taller than you, sometimes it happens that we don’t know how to act correctly. At this age, expect him to understand and subordination, and so it goes bitter, when you come across a wall of neprimerene and even unwillingness to listen. Then we have to resort not only to admonition, but also to punishment. Does the Bible say about physical punishment, which help in the upbringing of children.
“The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame” (Book of Proverbs, Chapter 29, verse 15).
“Do not withhold punishment; if you punish him with the rod, he shall not die: thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell”(Book of Proverbs, Chapter 23, verses 13,14).
I want to offer you some thoughts about corporal punishment of the famous American preacher, Dr. Dobson. In his book he writes: “Many make the mistake of offering to punish children only when all other means had no effect and parents don’t know what to do next. Then violence is used as a final act of loss of hope and frustration, and then grade it goes into one grade with shouting and threats. Corporal punishment be much more efficient if applied at the beginning of the conflict, when parents are in control of their emotional state, and not one and a half hours after the start of the altercation. Indeed, the probability of cruelty of parents becomes much more when the child is given the opportunity for hours to annoy, to torment their parents, to obey, to be mad at them. And most importantly, corporal punishment prepacyte only in case of DELIBERATE DISOBEDIENCE!”
The use of physical punishment in the upbringing of children, parents run the risk of falling into extremes. The first is when they can accurately fulfill the Scripture:
“Who regrets his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth since childhood punishing him” (Book of Proverbs, Chapter 13,verse 24) . You stepped on the foot, not given quietly watching TV? Stir thoroughly disobedient child and at least an hour you are provided with impeccable behavior. As simple as that. Be assured that this is not the cause of the massacre of the child! Have you ever heard in their lives the cry of Jesus? For we will all give an account to God. The Bible says:
“Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged” (the Epistle to the Colossians, Chapter 3, verse 21) . The other extreme permissiveness. When parents are unable to show the hardness and only promise to punish, letting things take their course. Such children grow up to be people who know no law higher than their own momentary whims. It’s selfish, unable to sacrifice their interests for others. To such parents the Scripture says:
“Nurture them in the chastening and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians, Chapter 6, verse 4) . Wise parents must first understand the emotional and physical characteristics of the child, given his age, and only after that to choose the methods of persuasion or punishment that is acceptable for your child. Bless us Lord to be wise parents. Ask God for his children, as requested Jairus, the woman-the woman of Canaan, the father of the possessed boy. Jesus himself urged mothers:
“Weep for yourselves and for your children” (LK. 23.28) . And then shall be fulfilled the dream of every mother, including mine, is to be raptured to Christ’s hands with their children.