Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Not for all children visiting kindergarten evokes positive emotions, often the children can’t come to terms with the permanent early rising in the morning, stress due to conflicts with peers, strict discipline, etc. And these kids more than those who are happy to run in the garden. The rest are capable of tantrums that accompany your trek in kindergarten, they constantly cry or evening, or after sleep, or during the journey. They cry at the sight of educator or in the care of parents, but it’s clear that this crying is always a reason that it is important to identify and correct the child’s behavior to avoid such stress.
What can be causes of crying baby?
One reason for these constant tears may be early each morning when the child is set on a sweet morning sleep. The child actively awake, forced to gather in the garden and he is trying all he means to stay at home. Many kids can even lie on the floor in hysterics, parents not only led them to the garden.
With such an extreme behavior of the baby should explain to him what is taking him to kindergarten. Tell your child that you need to go to work to earn a lot of money, which you will definitely buy him beautiful new clothes and toys. Convincing in this baby, you should stick to our promises, that this explanation has not lost Continue reading
I have recently read a book by Y. B. Gippenreiter «to Communicate with the child. How?». And I liked it so much that I decided to publish it on the blog pages. The book makes us parents to reflect and reconsider their behavior and attitude towards children. Today I present to you the first two lessons from this book
Unconditional acceptance is the principle without the adoption of which all attempts to establish a relationship with the child are unsuccessful.
Of course to adopt a child is to love him not for what he’s handsome, smart, capable, successful, etc. and just like that, just for what he is!
Parents say: “If you’re good, I’ll love you”. Or: “I won’t feel good until you don’t …(to be lazy, to fight, to be rude), starts …(good grades, help around the house)”.
In these statements directly inform the child that it is taken CONDITIONALLY, that his love or will love, “ONLY IF …”. Conditional, evaluative attitude toward man is characteristic of our culture. It is embedded in the minds of children.
The reason the estimated relationships in the belief that REWARDS AND PUNISHMENT are the main educational tools. But there is a pattern here:
More than child abuse, the worse it becomes
Why is this happening? But because child rearing Continue reading