Many kids are afraid of something, someone… How do these constant fears that are the basis for many life.
“… Come grey little wolf and bite at the flank,” the mother sings a lullaby, and then is surprised when he hears from a child :”I’m scared!”. Together, let us understand, what are the causes of fear from our children and how to deal with them.
In the first place . children learn fears from us, parents. If mom is afraid of dogs, there’s a very high chance that the child will be afraid of them. The same applies to fear of thunderstorm and lots more. The children of anxious mothers, ready all around to see the potential danger for your kid grow up to be ultra-cautious and fearful. And all because at every step mum warns: “Caution! Machine! Attention! Dog! Caution. “And the child becomes accustomed to living in anxiety, subconsciously, all the time expecting some danger.
Secondly . children’s fears and generates excessive parental care. The child growing in greenhouse conditions, it’s very difficult to adjust to life without “protective suit”, and he is everywhere begin to haunt danger, and on this basis, there are fears. A child’s opportunities to learn about Continue reading
“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young Continue reading
Sometimes all–still without punishment is not enough. It is about those cases, when your child knows what he’s doing is bad and wrong. He knows that this behavior imposed a strict ban. Knows – and checks… “strength”. And suddenly the boundaries of their own sovereignty to be extended? Suddenly can not be considered with parental demands? It is so important to clarify from time to time, who’s the pack leader.
Why you have to punish the child
Than to respond to children’s rudeness, deliberate cruelty, lies, blatant disobedience? Here, the reaction of the parents must be strict and unambiguous. Want–don’t want to have to punish. From all children’s misconduct was exactly the reaction requires approximately 10 %.
Incidentally, demonstrating defiance, the child… waiting for punishment and even needs him. After all, a false sense that you are stronger than adults, is not conducive to the successful development of the personality, only provokes fears. After all, if mom and dad can’t obey – therefore, their word penny is not worth it. From this, the child concludes: “parents – people are weak, lacking authority”. It can’t protect you any–that weakling?
The importance of evaluation for the children’s consciousness was confirmed Continue reading