Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Adult women, though, and the home, hardly coexist in the same kitchen, and adolescent girls it is not easy to grow up with the jealous moms.
So competition does not destroy the relationships of loved ones, it is better not to ignore (say, the problem does not concern us), and to investigate such a possibility, says analyst Ilona Tyszkiewicz.
Almost every fairy tale for girls begins with how his father married a bitchy beauty. And it’s not that at every step met orphans. Tales designed not only to them, and normal children. The growing child with a good relationship with my mother can not openly recognize the spirit of competition. Not so ashamed to dream about the victory over the “evil alien aunt” than a real parent. Incidentally, the first sibling rivalry occurs in 4-6 years, when it becomes clear that to marry dear old dad will not succeed – he’s busy. A child looks in a new way: on the one hand, this is mom’s favorite, on the other hand,… Oh, you had to be born before it and “borrow” dad. In adolescence there is another interest is: beautiful I mom?
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5 books that will help you better understand your child
Philosopher Danny Diderot said: “Who stops reading, he stops to think!”. We will begin our book week with five important books for parents. Books that will help a completely different way to look at your relationships with children.
Janusz Korczak “How to love your child”
The most important book that should be read by all mothers and fathers on the light, you can read the book by the famous Polish educator and writer Janusz Korczak “love”. Despite the fact that was written almost a hundred years ago, the book has remained relevant in our time.
Korczak does not offer ready-made solutions, he calls to reflect and find a way to untie the problems and correct errors that we face every day raising children.
This man deserved, so we listened to him not only life but also death. Janusz Korczak did not leave their pupils even in the gas ovens of Treblinka, and died with them, although he offered to save lives.
«If we divide mankind into adults and children, and life — in childhood and adulthood, it appears that children and childhood — this is a very large part of humanity and life. Just busy with their own concerns, their struggles, we do not notice it, as noticed previously, a woman, a man, Continue reading