Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Shown with small reductions
In I the classroom behavior of a student is fully regulated by the teacher, who usually uses in children unquestioned authority. “Said Maria Ivanovna,” says first-grader, explaining why he did exactly so and not otherwise. It happens that the student misunderstands the words of the teacher; parents are trying to correct the child, but he stubbornly stands his ground, referring to the teacher, not recognizing, in this case the authority of the parents. But in II, and especially in the third class, the student tries to understand the reasons why the teacher presents him with certain requirements. The child experiences an opinion that may disagree with the views of the teacher, then the teacher should explain to the student why you should do so. This desire to understand the motives of action indicates a growing child has a meaningful relationship to reality. But the authority of the teacher is not reduced. The kids ‘ respect for him is so great that many students of class III are sure that the teacher knows everything and can do everything.
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“Where is your Papa?” or that child to answer curious
To live without a dad is not easy. No one says you have to keep the family together at any cost is not always wise and sometimes simply impossible. And yet sonomama know how difficult it is psychologically and morally, and financially, too… And besides, we all don’t live on a deserted island, but in society. And sooner or later your baby will ask “Where’s your daddy?”.
Children on the Playground, the doctor at the clinic, the grandmother of the neighbor… the first time the kid will be perplexed and will come with the same question to you about. what to say, read the article “the Child asks where daddy “. You need to prepare, the second time he did not panic and knew what to answer.
Close to the truth
Key point: do not tell the child “but let’s just say aunt Luda that…”. First, the child will feel the discrepancy: my mom says that lying is bad, and then she asks to do it? And secondly, such a maneuver will attract unwanted attention to this issue. Children tend to think out what you do not understand, and here the logic is very simple – if mom says no, dad, it means that there is something wrong. Don’t be surprised a kid’s imagination can take him very far, to the extent that daddy left because of the bad mother. Continue reading