“Where is your Papa?” or that child to answer curious
To live without a dad is not easy. No one says you have to keep the family together at any cost is not always wise and sometimes simply impossible. And yet sonomama know how difficult it is psychologically and morally, and financially, too… And besides, we all don’t live on a deserted island, but in society. And sooner or later your baby will ask “Where’s your daddy?”.
Children on the Playground, the doctor at the clinic, the grandmother of the neighbor… the first time the kid will be perplexed and will come with the same question to you about. what to say, read the article “the Child asks where daddy “. You need to prepare, the second time he did not panic and knew what to answer.
Close to the truth
Key point: do not tell the child “but let’s just say aunt Luda that…”. First, the child will feel the discrepancy: my mom says that lying is bad, and then she asks to do it? And secondly, such a maneuver will attract unwanted attention to this issue. Children tend to think out what you do not understand, and here the logic is very simple – if mom says no, dad, it means that there is something wrong. Don’t be surprised a kid’s imagination can take him very far, to the extent that daddy left because of the bad mother. Continue reading
Sometimes all–still without punishment is not enough. It is about those cases, when your child knows what he’s doing is bad and wrong. He knows that this behavior imposed a strict ban. Knows – and checks… “strength”. And suddenly the boundaries of their own sovereignty to be extended? Suddenly can not be considered with parental demands? It is so important to clarify from time to time, who’s the pack leader.
Why you have to punish the child
Than to respond to children’s rudeness, deliberate cruelty, lies, blatant disobedience? Here, the reaction of the parents must be strict and unambiguous. Want–don’t want to have to punish. From all children’s misconduct was exactly the reaction requires approximately 10 %.
Incidentally, demonstrating defiance, the child… waiting for punishment and even needs him. After all, a false sense that you are stronger than adults, is not conducive to the successful development of the personality, only provokes fears. After all, if mom and dad can’t obey – therefore, their word penny is not worth it. From this, the child concludes: “parents – people are weak, lacking authority”. It can’t protect you any–that weakling?
The importance of evaluation for the children’s consciousness was confirmed Continue reading
Small baby crying when he’s sick. He has no desire to “bully” their parents, just in another way he can’t announce that he was in trouble (is hungry, tummy ache, teething, etc.). For the baby form a favorable impression of the world (which is very important for its further development), none of his request for assistance should not be neglected. As noted by psychologists, these requests have mom must react with lightning speed. According to them, the sooner the mother comes to the child for help, the less nervous system suffers and the more favorable the impression the kid about his new habitat.
The books are especially popular in our country B. Spock a lot of advice not to take the child in his arms, not to play with him too much when he is awake, it is alleged, leads to the spoiled and prevents the development of independence. Alas, these tips (as well as much more in the books for Spock) the latest data of psychology does not stand up to scrutiny. It is tactile contact (when a child), a calm gentle voice mom give the child confidence, reduce stress, and thereby created the conditions for independence.
All parents it is advisable to learn one simple thing: in the first months of life (approximately one year) there is no danger to spoil the child. Love and affection can never have too many.
A young child also needs food, sleep, movement, there is also the need for love, Continue reading