Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Sometimes we adults coloring your world in a very unusual color. If we Tosca, green, and if you dream, then blue, if Monday, well… think for yourself.
Babies are all different. For them the words “Orange sky orange sea, orange green orange camel” is a normal phenomenon. Kids like bright colors. Therefore beckons bright packaging in the supermarket. And no matter what the product may not be as good, or unhealthy, the child will ask to buy just because he was attracted by the bright shiny packaging.
Some of the children like red, and some prefer green. Child psychologists argue that these preferences say about habits, and character of the child.
Red color – kids love leaders, very active, moving, “Zinger”. This color gives confidence and determination. Therefore, psychologists advise clothes red shy and not very confident in yourself kiddies. It is also useful in the presence of this color in the boy’s clothing, it will give the child a sense of the winner.
The orange color – I prefer optimists, they are always cheerful, talkative. Kids are always easy to find contact with their peers and adults. Have many different Hobbies which are changing rapidly. Today they like one thing, tomorrow another. Guys can be the soul of any company, but at the same time well play alone. Pediatricians say that the love for the orange Continue reading
“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young Continue reading