The birth of a child is not only a great happiness for the family. Usually such an important event is becoming quite a serious test of the strength of the relationship between husband and wife. And not all couples cope with the new role. That’s exactly why ladies ask the doctors a question: how can I return the attention and love of her husband, when the family has a new baby.
The birth of a child is fundamentally changing the perception of life people. Changing social roles and statuses, financial burden is redistributed, perekrivaetsya the mode of the day. And this is only a small part of what happens to the couple after the appearance of her long-awaited child.
What happens to the couple after the baby is born
First of all, the workload for young parents is significantly increased. Because the child requires persistent attention. This means that you have bad and a little sleep at night, during the day to be constantly alert, to regularly walk with the child and thus to carry out their daily duties – cleaning the house and making money.
If a child is restless or painful, all these concerns need to multiply it by two and get real busy young parents.
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Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Ended the school year, the long-awaited summer time: you can sleep as much as you like, no homework, no school – freedom, in a word!
But the parents now the question arises, what to do with the child, so that it will not go crazy from boredom and excess energy during the summer holidays, so as not brought to mind the immediate family and the time went to good use.
Of course, summer camps, kids clubs, etc. trip to village to the grandmother and the grandfather, vacation with her parents is a great idea. But, as a rule, free time still remains and it needed something to fill.
I offer readers Mirsovetov few ideas how to spend your summer holidays and leave time for boredom and idleness, for parents, or for those who will be with the child during the holidays at home.
The first thing I would like to say, is a very important mode of the day and its planning. So all day you with a child was based on a clear plan. Predictability and constancy give the child a sense of confidence and peace of mind, he knows what to do at one or another point of time.
Not necessarily stand up in alarm, and as early as in school, but it is desirable that it was one and the same time and not too late. It is important to teach a child to do morning exercises, to do it with him. In this there are clear benefits and advantages both Continue reading