Small children don’t steal. Up to four or five years they don’t understand the principle of ownership and property. They don’t understand that it’s not nice to take other people’s stuff.
By the time when the child is in first class, he knows that stealing is bad. At this age kids sometimes just don’t have enough self-control to resist the temptation.
By the time I entered middle school and podrostkov age, the child may steal because it’s fun, and because his friends are doing this.
He, therefore, tries to take your life in your hands, or to fill an emotional void.
Whatever the reason for stealing, you need to approach the problem with wisdom. If you react under the influence of emotion, it’s likely that your actions will be wrong and destructive.
Causes of child theft:
1. The child can’t control himself.
Young children lack self-control. The child can take someone else’s, knowing that it’s bad, but can’t cope with them. You will need to help him to get what you want in an honest way.
2. The basic needs of the child provided by the parents.
The child is totally dependent on parents for shelter, food and clothing. If he doesn’t get enough, it begins to steal.
The need of a person’s subjective. Sometimes a parent feels that his child is not in need, and for the child it is very important. For example, school friends of a child’s Continue reading
The child persistently draws and eats with the left hand, despite all your entreaties? Is it worth it to retrain or is it better to accept this feature?
Lefties are called not only to people that are better controlled with the left hand, but generally those whose left-sided paired organs (foot, hand, eye, ear) are better developed and have played a leading role. Such characteristics are due to the structure of its brain. When a person is better developed are the “left” bodies, this means that the leading role in the brain, the right hemisphere takes. And here it turns out that the difference between “left-brain” people (i.e. our most right-handed), from “right-brained” is much more global than just the choice of the dominant hand.
The left hemisphere of the human brain responsible for these functions in our thinking as logic, manipulation of signs and symbols, the ability to dismember and detail objects and events. Left-brain thinking is more pronounced in men. The right hemisphere is responsible for intuition. The people that it takes a dominant role. hardly dissected picture of the world into its component parts, analyze bad, but able to see an object or event entirely Continue reading
I have recently read a book by Y. B. Gippenreiter «to Communicate with the child. How?». And I liked it so much that I decided to publish it on the blog pages. The book makes us parents to reflect and reconsider their behavior and attitude towards children. Today I present to you the first two lessons from this book
Unconditional acceptance is the principle without the adoption of which all attempts to establish a relationship with the child are unsuccessful.
Of course to adopt a child is to love him not for what he’s handsome, smart, capable, successful, etc. and just like that, just for what he is!
Parents say: “If you’re good, I’ll love you”. Or: “I won’t feel good until you don’t …(to be lazy, to fight, to be rude), starts …(good grades, help around the house)”.
In these statements directly inform the child that it is taken CONDITIONALLY, that his love or will love, “ONLY IF …”. Conditional, evaluative attitude toward man is characteristic of our culture. It is embedded in the minds of children.
The reason the estimated relationships in the belief that REWARDS AND PUNISHMENT are the main educational tools. But there is a pattern here:
More than child abuse, the worse it becomes
Why is this happening? But because child rearing Continue reading