Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Relationships with parents — the most important relationship for each person. It is through parents man gets his basic picture of the world, and it is through the parents come the most important lessons. To understand their relationships with mom and dad, perhaps even more important than finding your soul mate and to establish harmony with her.
Propose to take as a prop to further the reasoning of such a model. Every person consists of two halves — male and female. Each has two programs: a male dad and a female mom. These programs are not even connected with the personal lessons, and generic.
By and large, one of the meanings of bringing people together in pairs and creating a family is that the husband’s Family and the Family of his wife through his incarnate on Earth representatives were able to exchange knowledge and skills, and, most importantly, be able to combine them in a harmonious collaboration.
In modern society, the harmonious cooperation of husband and wife is a rare phenomenon. Much more can be found confrontation, acceptance of each other that at the household level is manifested as conflicts, quarrels, discord in the family and the suffering of all its members.
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Adult women, though, and the home, hardly coexist in the same kitchen, and adolescent girls it is not easy to grow up with the jealous moms.
So competition does not destroy the relationships of loved ones, it is better not to ignore (say, the problem does not concern us), and to investigate such a possibility, says analyst Ilona Tyszkiewicz.
Almost every fairy tale for girls begins with how his father married a bitchy beauty. And it’s not that at every step met orphans. Tales designed not only to them, and normal children. The growing child with a good relationship with my mother can not openly recognize the spirit of competition. Not so ashamed to dream about the victory over the “evil alien aunt” than a real parent. Incidentally, the first sibling rivalry occurs in 4-6 years, when it becomes clear that to marry dear old dad will not succeed – he’s busy. A child looks in a new way: on the one hand, this is mom’s favorite, on the other hand,… Oh, you had to be born before it and “borrow” dad. In adolescence there is another interest is: beautiful I mom?
These stages are experienced in all children. Here are just a reaction to this mom totally different. Continue reading