Many kids are afraid of something, someone… How do these constant fears that are the basis for many life.
“… Come grey little wolf and bite at the flank,” the mother sings a lullaby, and then is surprised when he hears from a child :”I’m scared!”. Together, let us understand, what are the causes of fear from our children and how to deal with them.
In the first place . children learn fears from us, parents. If mom is afraid of dogs, there’s a very high chance that the child will be afraid of them. The same applies to fear of thunderstorm and lots more. The children of anxious mothers, ready all around to see the potential danger for your kid grow up to be ultra-cautious and fearful. And all because at every step mum warns: “Caution! Machine! Attention! Dog! Caution. “And the child becomes accustomed to living in anxiety, subconsciously, all the time expecting some danger.
Secondly . children’s fears and generates excessive parental care. The child growing in greenhouse conditions, it’s very difficult to adjust to life without “protective suit”, and he is everywhere begin to haunt danger, and on this basis, there are fears. A child’s opportunities to learn about Continue reading
Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Sometimes we adults coloring your world in a very unusual color. If we Tosca, green, and if you dream, then blue, if Monday, well… think for yourself.
Babies are all different. For them the words “Orange sky orange sea, orange green orange camel” is a normal phenomenon. Kids like bright colors. Therefore beckons bright packaging in the supermarket. And no matter what the product may not be as good, or unhealthy, the child will ask to buy just because he was attracted by the bright shiny packaging.
Some of the children like red, and some prefer green. Child psychologists argue that these preferences say about habits, and character of the child.
Red color – kids love leaders, very active, moving, “Zinger”. This color gives confidence and determination. Therefore, psychologists advise clothes red shy and not very confident in yourself kiddies. It is also useful in the presence of this color in the boy’s clothing, it will give the child a sense of the winner.
The orange color – I prefer optimists, they are always cheerful, talkative. Kids are always easy to find contact with their peers and adults. Have many different Hobbies which are changing rapidly. Today they like one thing, tomorrow another. Guys can be the soul of any company, but at the same time well play alone. Pediatricians say that the love for the orange Continue reading