Many kids are afraid of something, someone… How do these constant fears that are the basis for many life.
“… Come grey little wolf and bite at the flank,” the mother sings a lullaby, and then is surprised when he hears from a child :”I’m scared!”. Together, let us understand, what are the causes of fear from our children and how to deal with them.
In the first place . children learn fears from us, parents. If mom is afraid of dogs, there’s a very high chance that the child will be afraid of them. The same applies to fear of thunderstorm and lots more. The children of anxious mothers, ready all around to see the potential danger for your kid grow up to be ultra-cautious and fearful. And all because at every step mum warns: “Caution! Machine! Attention! Dog! Caution. “And the child becomes accustomed to living in anxiety, subconsciously, all the time expecting some danger.
Secondly . children’s fears and generates excessive parental care. The child growing in greenhouse conditions, it’s very difficult to adjust to life without “protective suit”, and he is everywhere begin to haunt danger, and on this basis, there are fears. A child’s opportunities to learn about Continue reading
“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young Continue reading
The child is lying – what is the reason and what to do about it? These questions are asked by many parents when they notice that the child is lying.
If the child is lying, parents begin to blame it on his friends who taught him to lie, to look for what they did wrong when raising, etc. but what to do if you started to lie 4-year-old kid who never goes outside alone and never learned to lie from her friends? If you realize that the child is lying, do not need to blame, shame and punish.
The nature of children’s lies
As we have said, the child may begin to lie to your parents at a very early age, but it should be understood that the kid isn’t doing this specifically and especially not for using lies to manipulate you.
Typically, young children are strongly developed imagination, but he is not yet aware that his imagination is not true. He comes up with different stories and he believes them because young children believe that their whole life is a fairy tale. Therefore, if your toddler tells you that came to him elf or some other fairy tale character, Continue reading