Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
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Greedy children — what should parents do in this situation? How to behave and how to re-educate the child? Unfortunately, today a lot of children with this problem. Moreover, it is not necessary that the child inherits the parents ‘ behaviour. Greed at first glance it may appear out of nowhere and interfere with normal communication not only of the child with peers, but also to excite parents: why suddenly the child became greedy. As happens with any problem, for its solution it is necessary to determine the underlying cause.
Greedy kid — where the problem occurs?
At the age of one and a half to two years the child has not yet formed the concept of his and others. All around exposed inquisitive child study — all around me! And hence it is necessary to investigate, tatakau away in your mouth, smell, taste and so on.
To two years the child is completely aware of his and I confidently speak their toys: “mine!” In this case — this is the first psychological stage of development of your baby. Only in this age, the child begins to realize what really “mine” and what is “not mine”, someone else’s. Hence the demand with the child now grows up, once there is an understanding — and then there is responsibility. My child is that close that expensive, what is in his range of sight Continue reading