The Technique How to help your child overcome fear

Many kids are afraid of something, someone… How do these constant fears that are the basis for many life.

“… Come grey little wolf and bite at the flank,” the mother sings a lullaby, and then is surprised when he hears from a child :”I’m scared!”. Together, let us understand, what are the causes of fear from our children and how to deal with them.

In the first place . children learn fears from us, parents. If mom is afraid of dogs, there’s a very high chance that the child will be afraid of them. The same applies to fear of thunderstorm and lots more. The children of anxious mothers, ready all around to see the potential danger for your kid grow up to be ultra-cautious and fearful. And all because at every step mum warns: “Caution! Machine! Attention! Dog! Caution. “And the child becomes accustomed to living in anxiety, subconsciously, all the time expecting some danger.

Secondly . children’s fears and generates excessive parental care. The child growing in greenhouse conditions, it’s very difficult to adjust to life without “protective suit”, and he is everywhere begin to haunt danger, and on this basis, there are fears. A child’s opportunities to learn about Continue reading

To beat or not to Beat the child-rearing practices

Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.

And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.

It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.

But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.

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Can you spoil a child under the age of 1 year?

Small baby crying when he’s sick. He has no desire to “bully” their parents, just in another way he can’t announce that he was in trouble (is hungry, tummy ache, teething, etc.). For the baby form a favorable impression of the world (which is very important for its further development), none of his request for assistance should not be neglected. As noted by psychologists, these requests have mom must react with lightning speed. According to them, the sooner the mother comes to the child for help, the less nervous system suffers and the more favorable the impression the kid about his new habitat.

The books are especially popular in our country B. Spock a lot of advice not to take the child in his arms, not to play with him too much when he is awake, it is alleged, leads to the spoiled and prevents the development of independence. Alas, these tips (as well as much more in the books for Spock) the latest data of psychology does not stand up to scrutiny. It is tactile contact (when a child), a calm gentle voice mom give the child confidence, reduce stress, and thereby created the conditions for independence.

All parents it is advisable to learn one simple thing: in the first months of life (approximately one year) there is no danger to spoil the child. Love and affection can never have too many.

A young child also needs food, sleep, movement, there is also the need for love, Continue reading

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