Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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How to calm your baby: tips for parents
It is impossible to describe in simple words the feelings of motherhood, when near you next defenseless lump, whispering “in two holes” trying to make the first movement of the jaws, and this is his first gentle informative look. The young mother, unable to look away from your toddler picks up every movement, cherishes, cares, caress…
Yes, this is natural, as it should be. But this can’t go on all his life. There will come a time when mom will need to go to work, respectively, the child will begin to attend kindergarten. And here begins what many parents fear. What might be the reaction in the absence of the loved one?
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The first days in kindergarten
Those who have already passed this phase in their lives know very well that the first few days, when he will begin to attend kindergarten, constantly crying for her mother, panics, he is not interested baby toys that filled his room in the group, kind words professional educators. Constantly repeats the same word — ” Mother “.
At the first creak of the front door turns his tear-stained eyes with the hope that appeared in the doorway of his dear, beloved mother – the only person in the world, which he now wants to see.
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Sometimes all–still without punishment is not enough. It is about those cases, when your child knows what he’s doing is bad and wrong. He knows that this behavior imposed a strict ban. Knows – and checks… “strength”. And suddenly the boundaries of their own sovereignty to be extended? Suddenly can not be considered with parental demands? It is so important to clarify from time to time, who’s the pack leader.
Why you have to punish the child
Than to respond to children’s rudeness, deliberate cruelty, lies, blatant disobedience? Here, the reaction of the parents must be strict and unambiguous. Want–don’t want to have to punish. From all children’s misconduct was exactly the reaction requires approximately 10 %.
Incidentally, demonstrating defiance, the child… waiting for punishment and even needs him. After all, a false sense that you are stronger than adults, is not conducive to the successful development of the personality, only provokes fears. After all, if mom and dad can’t obey – therefore, their word penny is not worth it. From this, the child concludes: “parents – people are weak, lacking authority”. It can’t protect you any–that weakling?
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