“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
Before the older woman, the mother helped in childbirth, took the child, washed, taught young Continue reading
Small baby crying when he’s sick. He has no desire to “bully” their parents, just in another way he can’t announce that he was in trouble (is hungry, tummy ache, teething, etc.). For the baby form a favorable impression of the world (which is very important for its further development), none of his request for assistance should not be neglected. As noted by psychologists, these requests have mom must react with lightning speed. According to them, the sooner the mother comes to the child for help, the less nervous system suffers and the more favorable the impression the kid about his new habitat.
The books are especially popular in our country B. Spock a lot of advice not to take the child in his arms, not to play with him too much when he is awake, it is alleged, leads to the spoiled and prevents the development of independence. Alas, these tips (as well as much more in the books for Spock) the latest data of psychology does not stand up to scrutiny. It is tactile contact (when a child), a calm gentle voice mom give the child confidence, reduce stress, and thereby created the conditions for independence.
All parents it is advisable to learn one simple thing: in the first months of life (approximately one year) there is no danger to spoil the child. Love and affection can never have too many.
A young child also needs food, sleep, movement, there is also the need for love, Continue reading
Relationships with parents — the most important relationship for each person. It is through parents man gets his basic picture of the world, and it is through the parents come the most important lessons. To understand their relationships with mom and dad, perhaps even more important than finding your soul mate and to establish harmony with her.
Propose to take as a prop to further the reasoning of such a model. Every person consists of two halves — male and female. Each has two programs: a male dad and a female mom. These programs are not even connected with the personal lessons, and generic.
By and large, one of the meanings of bringing people together in pairs and creating a family is that the husband’s Family and the Family of his wife through his incarnate on Earth representatives were able to exchange knowledge and skills, and, most importantly, be able to combine them in a harmonious collaboration.
In modern society, the harmonious cooperation of husband and wife is a rare phenomenon. Much more can be found confrontation, acceptance of each other that at the household level is manifested as conflicts, quarrels, discord in the family and the suffering of all its members.
This situation means that the husband and wife failed Continue reading