Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Ended the school year, the long-awaited summer time: you can sleep as much as you like, no homework, no school – freedom, in a word!
But the parents now the question arises, what to do with the child, so that it will not go crazy from boredom and excess energy during the summer holidays, so as not brought to mind the immediate family and the time went to good use.
Of course, summer camps, kids clubs, etc. trip to village to the grandmother and the grandfather, vacation with her parents is a great idea. But, as a rule, free time still remains and it needed something to fill.
I offer readers Mirsovetov few ideas how to spend your summer holidays and leave time for boredom and idleness, for parents, or for those who will be with the child during the holidays at home.
The first thing I would like to say, is a very important mode of the day and its planning. So all day you with a child was based on a clear plan. Predictability and constancy give the child a sense of confidence and peace of mind, he knows what to do at one or another point of time.
Not necessarily stand up in alarm, and as early as in school, but it is desirable that it was one and the same time and not too late. It is important to teach a child to do morning exercises, to do it with him. In this there are clear benefits and advantages both Continue reading
The child is lying – what is the reason and what to do about it? These questions are asked by many parents when they notice that the child is lying.
If the child is lying, parents begin to blame it on his friends who taught him to lie, to look for what they did wrong when raising, etc. but what to do if you started to lie 4-year-old kid who never goes outside alone and never learned to lie from her friends? If you realize that the child is lying, do not need to blame, shame and punish.
The nature of children’s lies
As we have said, the child may begin to lie to your parents at a very early age, but it should be understood that the kid isn’t doing this specifically and especially not for using lies to manipulate you.
Typically, young children are strongly developed imagination, but he is not yet aware that his imagination is not true. He comes up with different stories and he believes them because young children believe that their whole life is a fairy tale. Therefore, if your toddler tells you that came to him elf or some other fairy tale character, Continue reading