Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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Not for all children visiting kindergarten evokes positive emotions, often the children can’t come to terms with the permanent early rising in the morning, stress due to conflicts with peers, strict discipline, etc. And these kids more than those who are happy to run in the garden. The rest are capable of tantrums that accompany your trek in kindergarten, they constantly cry or evening, or after sleep, or during the journey. They cry at the sight of educator or in the care of parents, but it’s clear that this crying is always a reason that it is important to identify and correct the child’s behavior to avoid such stress.
What can be causes of crying baby?
One reason for these constant tears may be early each morning when the child is set on a sweet morning sleep. The child actively awake, forced to gather in the garden and he is trying all he means to stay at home. Many kids can even lie on the floor in hysterics, parents not only led them to the garden.
With such an extreme behavior of the baby should explain to him what is taking him to kindergarten. Tell your child that you need to go to work to earn a lot of money, which you will definitely buy him beautiful new clothes and toys. Convincing in this baby, you should stick to our promises, that this explanation has not lost Continue reading
Small baby crying when he’s sick. He has no desire to “bully” their parents, just in another way he can’t announce that he was in trouble (is hungry, tummy ache, teething, etc.). For the baby form a favorable impression of the world (which is very important for its further development), none of his request for assistance should not be neglected. As noted by psychologists, these requests have mom must react with lightning speed. According to them, the sooner the mother comes to the child for help, the less nervous system suffers and the more favorable the impression the kid about his new habitat.
The books are especially popular in our country B. Spock a lot of advice not to take the child in his arms, not to play with him too much when he is awake, it is alleged, leads to the spoiled and prevents the development of independence. Alas, these tips (as well as much more in the books for Spock) the latest data of psychology does not stand up to scrutiny. It is tactile contact (when a child), a calm gentle voice mom give the child confidence, reduce stress, and thereby created the conditions for independence.
All parents it is advisable to learn one simple thing: in the first months of life (approximately one year) there is no danger to spoil the child. Love and affection can never have too many.
A young child also needs food, sleep, movement, there is also the need for love, Continue reading