How to get the attention and love of her husband after giving birth

The birth of a child is not only a great happiness for the family. Usually such an important event is becoming quite a serious test of the strength of the relationship between husband and wife. And not all couples cope with the new role. That’s exactly why ladies ask the doctors a question: how can I return the attention and love of her husband, when the family has a new baby.

The birth of a child is fundamentally changing the perception of life people. Changing social roles and statuses, financial burden is redistributed, perekrivaetsya the mode of the day. And this is only a small part of what happens to the couple after the appearance of her long-awaited child.

What happens to the couple after the baby is born

First of all, the workload for young parents is significantly increased. Because the child requires persistent attention. This means that you have bad and a little sleep at night, during the day to be constantly alert, to regularly walk with the child and thus to carry out their daily duties – cleaning the house and making money.

If a child is restless or painful, all these concerns need to multiply it by two and get real busy young parents.

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To beat or not to Beat the child-rearing practices

Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.

And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.

It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.

But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.

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Can you spoil a child under the age of 1 year?

Small baby crying when he’s sick. He has no desire to “bully” their parents, just in another way he can’t announce that he was in trouble (is hungry, tummy ache, teething, etc.). For the baby form a favorable impression of the world (which is very important for its further development), none of his request for assistance should not be neglected. As noted by psychologists, these requests have mom must react with lightning speed. According to them, the sooner the mother comes to the child for help, the less nervous system suffers and the more favorable the impression the kid about his new habitat.

The books are especially popular in our country B. Spock a lot of advice not to take the child in his arms, not to play with him too much when he is awake, it is alleged, leads to the spoiled and prevents the development of independence. Alas, these tips (as well as much more in the books for Spock) the latest data of psychology does not stand up to scrutiny. It is tactile contact (when a child), a calm gentle voice mom give the child confidence, reduce stress, and thereby created the conditions for independence.

All parents it is advisable to learn one simple thing: in the first months of life (approximately one year) there is no danger to spoil the child. Love and affection can never have too many.

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