Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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How to calm your baby: tips for parents
It is impossible to describe in simple words the feelings of motherhood, when near you next defenseless lump, whispering “in two holes” trying to make the first movement of the jaws, and this is his first gentle informative look. The young mother, unable to look away from your toddler picks up every movement, cherishes, cares, caress…
Yes, this is natural, as it should be. But this can’t go on all his life. There will come a time when mom will need to go to work, respectively, the child will begin to attend kindergarten. And here begins what many parents fear. What might be the reaction in the absence of the loved one?
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The first days in kindergarten
Those who have already passed this phase in their lives know very well that the first few days, when he will begin to attend kindergarten, constantly crying for her mother, panics, he is not interested baby toys that filled his room in the group, kind words professional educators. Constantly repeats the same word — ” Mother “.
At the first creak of the front door turns his tear-stained eyes with the hope that appeared in the doorway of his dear, beloved mother – the only person in the world, which he now wants to see.
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“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
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