Countless screaming and spanking parents suffers from guilt, from the consciousness of his parent “incompetence”.
And can be, no need to bother? The inadmissibility of the use of physical violence and yelling as a means of bringing unchallenged. But we are not always Teachers, and sometimes even just real people. All people differ in many qualities, such as temperament and other properties of the nervous system. And if you have “explosive” or just enough emotional temperament, the constant attempts to “control myself”, not letting his violent feelings near the surface, may lead you to a real nervous breakdown or illness. Constantly suppressed anger can cause the development of hypertension, for example.
It seems that recently we talked about the fact that you cannot use the child as a “punching bag”, and tore off the irritation, “outweighing” on his own psychological turmoil. This is true.
But if the child brought you “boiling point”, if your violent reaction caused his behavior (and not by problems in their personal lives, rudeness in public transport or injustice of his superiors at work) – honestly, you have the right to shout and even plunk.
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“Mom, I’m pregnant!” Why women are so often afraid for the first time to say these words? If we are talking about an unmarried young girl is still somehow can understand. But why such a fear of experiencing adult women, who have everything in order, have a loving husband, a separate apartment, and the child (first, second, third, fifth…) — they are waiting with joy?
The situation says the psychologist Alla Hwang.
It is noticed that in today’s society, today’s women are really sometimes there is fear of motherhood. Motherhood is not really fit to the values of this society: self-realization, career, achievements… the Future of motherhood begins to be perceived boundary between normal life and the life where all the popular values seem to be unavailable.
Against this background, the fear to admit the mother in pregnancy is quite understandable. But he himself is in some sense just a shadow. And figure that the shadow gives is actually a need to support the mother and a lack of confidence, she will get it.
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Relationships with parents — the most important relationship for each person. It is through parents man gets his basic picture of the world, and it is through the parents come the most important lessons. To understand their relationships with mom and dad, perhaps even more important than finding your soul mate and to establish harmony with her.
Propose to take as a prop to further the reasoning of such a model. Every person consists of two halves — male and female. Each has two programs: a male dad and a female mom. These programs are not even connected with the personal lessons, and generic.
By and large, one of the meanings of bringing people together in pairs and creating a family is that the husband’s Family and the Family of his wife through his incarnate on Earth representatives were able to exchange knowledge and skills, and, most importantly, be able to combine them in a harmonious collaboration.
In modern society, the harmonious cooperation of husband and wife is a rare phenomenon. Much more can be found confrontation, acceptance of each other that at the household level is manifested as conflicts, quarrels, discord in the family and the suffering of all its members.
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