Bad habits – hidden aggression?
Admit it, when you are nervous or bored… you biting your lip, maybe a pencil. And your child who picks his nose or constantly gnawing your fingernails, you make comments. “Health. 24” sorted out the favorite causes of obsessions and ways of getting rid of them.
Some of us enjoy tinkering in the ear, the other from the finger-sucking or biting of the lips, and many people like fast blinking. But the leaders among all the “bad habits” remain anypage (from the Greek. swollen –”nail” and phagen – “to devour”) and rhinotillexomania (picking his nose).
Nearly a third of all children aged 7 to 10 years and nearly half of all adolescents systematically biting your nails. Experts believe both these habits manifestation of mental disorder.
Psychologists are not in a hurry to call onifai and rhinotillexomania serious mental illness, but just saying, often repeated in the child obsessive gesture is a signal to parents that the health of their child is threatened with a neurosis, depression or psychosomatic illness. But in adulthood, it is likely that he cannot avoid going to a psychiatrist.
No matter which of the obsessions befell your child, because the mechanism of their action “one for all”. Bad habits arise as a protective reaction to unconscious anxiety and emotional discomfort. If they do not change the category of obsession – it’s just a harmless way himself to calm down.
But, warn psychologists, from innocent obkusyvanie nails in early childhood from a variety of phobias and Smoking in adolescence – one step. Therefore, when the child began to bite his nails or lifts the finger from the nose (usually in 3-4 years, or at puberty), it is worth to figure out what triggered it.
Habits as protection
When the child needs to calm down with the help of obsessions? In such critical cases, such as:
baby early or too abruptly was weaned from the breast: any early stress (moving, illness, startle to a loud sound) is fraught for baby appearance obsessions;
a child deprived of attention from parents (especially maternal affection), lack of warm feelings and positive emotions compensated rhythmically repetitive actions. Another risk factor is the mother’s anxiety and conflict atmosphere in the house;
the child is too strict: the constant demands of parents perfectionists, restrictions in movement and lack of spontaneity in relationships, solid control and discipline – in the end provoke obsessions;
Hyper parents: in response to the total care of the baby begins. nail-biting;
the child is too excited: stress can cause positive emotions (too outdoor games before bedtime), and, traditionally, negative feelings (e.g., sudden attack dog or conflict with peers);
by inheritance: if one parent suffers from univeria or rhinotillexomania, the probability of their occurrence the child is very high;
children diagnosed with MBD (minimal brain dysfunction) and hyperactivity – direct candidates for “rodents” and “I didn’t get mine”.
Unlike picking his nose, obkushuvannya nails – veiled aggression directed at himself, according to the psychotherapists. In both cases, regularly repeated actions extinguish internal anxiety that short period of time allows you to lose yourself in the pleasure.
When to sound the bell
If the “gastronomic” the love of their own fingers or single cases autographic studies of the nose is not annoying neither the culprit nor the others – a trip to the psychologist can wait until the child himself is not willing to get rid of bad habits.
But to run to the psychologist when:
obsession manifests itself too often and openly, i.e. when the child for any reason “grabs your finger”;
cheerleaders must be and what a child bites her nails or picks his nose in public, not paying attention to the comments of senior;
obvious damage to the nail plate and periungual tissues on hand “rodent” talking about increasing anxiety that requires urgent specialist advice.
Traditionally, but inefficient
Practice shows that the lubricating fingers bitter substances (including special gels and ointments) is a useless exercise. Any mechanical obstacles – such as special gloves, the same ineffective way of dealing with obsession, and the constant comments, the withdrawal of the arms or persuasion. Until then, psychologists say, while the main reason is the sense of inner trouble persists, Samusocial obsession will not go away.
This is interesting
The world’s first center for the treatment of oniferi appeared in Holland in Venlo. In four weeks, according to the experts of the center, the patient is completely free from bad habits (positive result is achieved in 98% of all cases).
The average growth of the nail along the entire length of the plate occurs within 4-5 months.
About 50% of children and adolescents aged 10 to 18 years periodically bite your nails, but only about 23% of young people aged 18 to 22 years old have oniferi. Children begin to feed the addiction the nails approximately 3 years. And among children older than 10 years boys bite their nails more often than girls. It is believed that after reaching thirty years of age the majority gets rid of this bad habit. And only a small number of people (about 10%) continue breaking off the nails and after thirty.
Irina Nikonova . child psychologist
A lack of emotional contact with parents, children respond addictions. In children, the disorder obsessive nature often appear, for example, in the biting of the lips or the hair pulling. More serious are considered involuntary tics (a different sort of twitching), but, for example, the habit to crack your joints, nervously tapping your fingers are inherent exclusively to adults.
In nine cases out of ten the main cause of children’s obsession lies in family relationships between parents. Lack in the family of permanence and unity internally confuses the child, causing anxiety. In order to create an illusion of stability, the child resorts to repetitive actions or rituals.
This whole process usually occurs on an unconscious level, so to make myself get rid of the habits of an effort (and the child and adult) is impossible. The more people trying to cope with the obsessions (or parents weaned the child from bad habits), the worse he does it. Moreover, the older the child, the harder it is to get rid of ingrained actions. The principle of willpower doesn’t work here. Even if we could “clean up” a bad habit very quickly in its place will come another. Hence, the inevitability and necessity of psychological counseling.